#WQWWC: Setting Goals for a Successful Life

#WQWWC #6 Goals

“The thing about goals is that living without them is a lot more fun, in the short run. It seems to me, though, that the people who get things done, who lead, who grow and who make an impact… those people have goals.”

Seth Godin

What is fun anyway? The people I love and admire have fun doing worthwhile things and making their community a pace you would want to live. I want to be one of those people who gets things done, leads, grows and makes an impact for the rest of my life. Don’t you?

“By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands—your own.”

Mark Victor Hansen

Where do you record your dreams and goals – In your blog, your journal? I recorded my lifelong goal to be a teacher in my journal. Each opportunity that came up to move me toward that goal, I took even when it meant a hardship financially or a fight to take the step. 

“It’s important to set your own goals and work hard to achieve them.”

Yuichiro Miura

As an eighth grader, my goal in life was to finish college and teach. Yet, I dropped out of college when my funds ran out. My dad had not prepared to pay for three years of college when my scholarship ran out, and offered to pay for me to attend a 5 month course in dental assisting instead. I was nearly 19 by this time and felt desperate and OLD. Even though the sight of blood in a black and white movie made me queasy, I became a dental assistant.

After drifting in and out of a variety jobs in my twenties, I wanted to get back to my life goal. 

Our pastor told me I would not make a good teacher because my spiritual gift was encouraging, not teaching. My first husband told me that I needed to be a teacher before I could go back to school. I told him that was impossible, and I thought it was. Becoming a teacher was still a goal I wrote in my journal.

“Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success.”

Pablo Picasso

The only possible way to teach as a profession is with a degree. Defeated, I couldn’t see a way to get to college. We were poor and my husband had a genetic disease that took both his and his sister’s lives at early ages.

When my life was at its lowest, I had lost my job as a dental assistant in the small town where we lived, my best friend invited me to take some graduate education classes with her that she needed to renew her teaching credential. It was not expensive to audit the classes and my husband agreed. 

She invited me to work as a volunteer aide in her kindergarten class. I was thrilled when she invited me to teach a kindergarten class the next year in our church school. The pay was $350 a month, when the funds were there. It was enough to meet my husband’s stipulation for going to college. To me it represented a miracle. I took the next steps to becoming an elementary teacher. 

“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.”

Bill Copeland

Most of the goals during my thirties and forties focused on achieving the credentials to practice a profession – teaching and then consulting and administration, and remarrying the wonderful man who is now my husband of twenty-five years. I grew in my profession, and never again filled my life with meaningless and unfulfilling jobs. I quit running up and down the field without scoring.

“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal or ideal.”

Earl Nightingale

I loved education with all my heart, and when I retired, I set most of what I did aside to build a new life. That’s when I started blogging and it has been a life-changing hobby. My overarching goals were to write and give back to the community that gave me so much. My goals have been much more short-termed, some even could be classified as tasks. Admittedly, in my search for worthwhile goals, I gave up many times on what I thought were goals. 

“One way to keep momentum going is to have constantly greater goals.”

Michael Korda

We’re starting over AGAIN!

We sold nearly everything and downsized to an adorable condo in Prescott, AZ. We hope to move in this week.

This past month, we accomplished my husband’s twenty-five-year-old dream of living in Arizona – talk about a patient and persistent man. Once I agreed, we set goals and tasks. Before we made the commitment we had a vague notion that we might move SOMEWHERE in three to five years – that was eight years ago.

Once we committed to WHERE we wanted to move, he became a driven man, and we had daily goal and task setting meetings to make sure all the details got done in a timely manner. It was hard work, sad, sad, sad to leave the people we love. On the other hand, it was exhilarating to accomplish so much. If I talk about this too much, forgive me. I’m still amazed that we did it!

Yesterday we achieved the goal of walking across Lake Wilson, and climbing a granite dell. We did it one white dot at a time. I was scared to death and none too nimble, but it felt great – when we got back on solid ground!

SMART Goals

While my husband and I walked around Wilson Lake, we set what we in education call SMART goals. Here is one of our SMART Goals for the year.

  • Specific – Walk together 15 miles a week for the rest of the year.
  • Measurable – 35,355 steps per week
  • Attainable – 7,071 steps a day, five days a week.
  • Relevant – It’s important to stay fit. I need to lose weight so hopefully I don’t produce so much estrogen (produced in fat) Estrogen fueled the breast cancer I had removed last year. I don’t need a repeat experience . Vince and I will have a chance to chat uninterrupted for about an hour – WOW! There are lots of beautiful places to explore.- yes very relevant
  • Time-bound – One year

Conclusion

In summary, I believe that God allows us to set goals for ourselves rather than trusting our lives to fate and the backlash of circumstances. My life has been directed by goals and inspired and protected by God. Sometimes goals are wrong for us, they might not be our goals, but belong to someone else. That doesn’t mean we can’t help them along the way, but they probably won’t drive our lives until we make them our life’s passion. Goals motivate me not to waste my life and make me feel that each day has meaning.

So what about you?

What inspiration do you draw from quotes about goals? What do you want to do this year? How do you feel about setting goals? Do they hamper or help you, inspire or discourage you? Do you have an overarching driving goal for yourself? Do you have a goal for someone else? – That’s another story altogether, isn’t it? 

Respond to any or all of these quotes, or find some quotes of your own. Let your experiences lead you. There is no word limit on your blog post. Write a post on your blog and don’t forget to link back to my blog so I can find your blog and visit. Not sure how to do that? See how to create pingbacks here

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Thank You

Thanks to the people last week who joined us on my friend, Autumn Jade’s blog.

Comments?

Talk to me. You are my friends, my very life’s blood as we seek greater, worthwhile goals to fill the days of our lives and make them bright with promise and purpose.

Writing Challenge: New Year’s Resolutions (Doompocalypse Redux)

In essence there is a 97.3% probability that any one of us could have three months or three minutes more to live with or without a gigantic asteroid, meteor, renegade planet, or star residue knocking at our door.  If I think I only have that much time left to live, do I bother to plan at all?  Probably not.  I’m looking around me thinking, what should I do?  I can plan for right now at least.

Giant asteroid heads towards Earth

So here’s my daily list first.

  1. Write my blog for the day.  Wait!  Who’s talking to me now?  I’d better check my comments, Facebook, and email accounts.  It might be important. No, I’m not ADHD, I saved my draft first before I checked my comment box.
  2. I would like to finish the two books I’m reading this morning.  What?  It’s 10:15 already!  How did that happen.  I’ll finish the Elephant Whisperer first because it’s shorter, and such an adventure.  Then after I write a review of that one, I’ll head back to Winter of the World by Ken Follet, and write a review of that.  I don’t think I can get both of them finished.  hmmm  OK, cross off Ken and put him on my week’s goal.
  3. Finish unfinished projects:  different organization’s assignments, knitting, photography, new posts  Ops, too ambitious…
  4. Go visit my blog friends – the ones I didn’t get to already this morning.  Write lots of comments, steal ideas get inspired.  That’s doable.
  5. Take a lunch break.  I’m hungry already.  I forgot to take my diet pill.  Maybe I’d better stop right now and start fixing lunch!  V are you hungry yet?  It’s almost 11:00. a.m.   OK 10:15, but that’s close.
  6. Spend some spiritual time with God.  Maybe He will consider removing the asteroid threat.  I’ll ask anyway.
  7. Plan my next trip before the world blows up.  I’ll do that this evening.
  8. Keep up with household chores.  V were you going to vacuum this morning?  OK, he’s going to do that, so I can cross that one off.
  9. √Get dressed for the day.  I’ll bathe later.  If Ralph only needs 3 baths a year I guess skipping a day or two won’t make any difference, huh?  V have you started your bath yet?  OK, I have to wait till he’s done anyway, so I’ll skip that one.  No, I’ll go ahead and leave it on the list.  I probably SHOULD get dressed.  Let’s see my clothes I wore yesterday are right here on the floor.  sniff, sniff  Yeah, they’re clean enough.  There.  I can check that off.

  1. I’m back.  I decided to take a bath after all.  After I learn how to change the numbering on WP, I’m going to need to take a nap this afternoon so I can stay up and blog all night when I get free gigabytes.
  2. Take Kalev for a walk.  That should be number  V did you take Puppy Girl out this morning???  OK, she should be good until after lunch.
  3.  V are you going to want dinner tonight?  You ate quite a bit of cake yesterday.  OK then I can cross off making dinner?  Good.  Back to my book.

That about does it for the day.  Now for the week.

  1. Start writing my first book.  Spend at least 5 hours a day including building my blog, reading, and research and revising.  Ops I need to go back and revise my daily list…
  2. Get daily household chores done.
  3. Pack for trip with the History Girls on Friday.  Make sure I have plenty of clean underwear, and new PJs.  Better have some new jeans, too.  So I’d better go shopping, put gas in the car, and get it serviced, and go to the store.
  4. Have friends over for dinner one night – or maybe they will ask us to come over.  I’ll call and find out.  Wait, that won’t work.  It’s almost Wednesday.  I need at least a week to plan for company.
  5. One hour a day exercising.
  6. Attend one hour of church.
  7. Clean out my Kindle so I can get new books.
  8. Do something unselfish.  Wait that should be number 1.  Hmmm  Well, I’ll change it if I get around to it.

Now for the month.  I think I did this backwards.  Good planning involves planning backwards. No Problem!  I’ll just go ahead and write all this stuff, then switch it all.  It should match ok.  But wait!!!  I’m not trying to change the world, just pass time until the world ends.  I’m just going to leave it this way.

  1. Go to all my meetings.
  2. Watch 2-3 good movies
  3. Read 4-5 good books and write reviews on some of them to help me remember that I read them in case the world doesn’t end.
  4. Send out my Christmas letter to all my far away friends that don’t use Facebook.
  5. Bank my timeshare points in case the world doesn’t end, and I don’t get to travel all over the world this year.  I’ll think ahead for next year later.
  6. Get my hair done.
  7. pay the bills – oh wait, they’re all scheduled already.  I’m good!
  8. Attend 4-5 hours of church.
  9. Think of something generous to do for the world.

Guess that’s it for the month.  Now for the year.

  1. Create a new blog – Focus on SOMETHING.  Get Freshly Pressed.
  2. Continue expanding this blog until it explodes.  I’m at 61% capacity on January 1st.
  3. Finish writing one book.  Bury the first copy.
  4. Go on two -3 major trips.  Blog about them.
  5. Bury some artifacts in case a few humans survive the blast, and want to know about life in California.
  6. Decide what house projects to complete.  Start with underground shelter deep and well reinforced enough to protect us from asteroid impact.   Pack it with clothes for all weather types in case the climate changes.  Include gas masks, flame retardant suits, and plenty of parkas and thermal underwear.  Oh yes and food and a generator.  Allot at least $100,000 on it so I can spend down my life’s savings before it goes up in smoke!!

Featured Blog

Featured Blog

Today my choice is Mixed Up Meme’s blog.  Today she’s dancing with Sydney Fong.  I’m jealous.  I’ve been following Meme for a while.  She writes poetry and puts her words to music!!!  Sometimes she just records a song we all know and love.  She blogs all over the world, and yet she visits me very regularly, and leaves nice comments in my babble box.  I find myself just thinking about her during the day the way you do your good friends.  You know, “I think I should put this in my blog.  Meme would get a kick out of it…”  That kind of thing.  Why is that?  Mostly I think because Meme cares.  It matters to Meme.  So it matters to me.  So amble on over to Meme’s blog and say howdy.  Tell her Marsha Lee sent you!  🙂