Day 22 Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost
Paul Taubman of the Ultimate Blog Challenge urged participants to write about which candidate we support and why. As a social studies consultant, I have learned how important it is to help children/students form their own opinions. However, today I am going to take him up on his challenge.
Few would argue that this is a contentious election. Most national elections are. But we claim to be a civil government, a democracy of the people governed by laws instead of force. As teachers, we have curricula and strategies to decrease bullying because we want safe schools. We need to protect all students to create a safe environment.
When victims feel threatened, they either react physically. In some cases bringing guns to school and shooting people and usually themselves. In other instances, withdrawing and eventually going elsewhere to school if they have parental support. Some students go away quietly by themselves and commit suicide.
This is a serious societal problem that teachers battle every day both in and out of the classroom.
Now bullying has come to the presidential campaign. Few dispute that bullying and intimidation has occurred during the campaigns.
News moderators have worked very hard to create rules for debate and enforce them, some more effectively than others. Some hosts were bullied by candidates themselves.
None of the expert moderators totally succeeded in creating a bully-free environment.
Where will it stop?
What are the Characteristics of a Bully?
It’s important that teachers, parents, and members of the community be aware of the signals that suggest a child might be a bully. Some of the common indicators include:
-Lacks empathy and concern for others
-Demonstrates a strong need to dominate and subdue others
-Hot tempered, quickly becomes enraged
-Teases others in a hurtful manner
-Picks on others who are weaker; not done in self defense
-Intimidates others through threats or reputation
-Commits acts of physical aggression
– Defiant, oppositional, and aggressive towards adults
Bullying can be defined as ongoing verbal, physical, or written harassment/abuse that occurs in community and/or school settings. Bullies use aggression or threat of it, to gain dominance over peers. They tend to repeatedly target children who are “different” in some way. Non-assertive youngsters who will not defend themselves (or seek assistance) can also become prey.
Dealing with Bullying Authors: Tom McIntyre (Dr. Mac) and Alexis Franks
Bullies are notorious for misusing power. They may overtly denigrate, criticize, or exclude you in such a way that, at the time, you may be incapable of responding. In a group meeting, they may covertly destroy you by responding to a comment or suggestion you make with a remark alluding to the idea that they don’t understand what you are talking about—suggesting that you are inarticulate or ignorant—and not allow for clarification. But even more insidious is their capacity to manipulate or incite others to be aggressive, belittling, or hostile toward you through their denigrating remarks or creation of rumors. The farther they push you down, the more they rise to the top. And they do succeed.
Bullies have high self-esteem, but they are very shame-prone— they are anxious about the exposure of their failures or shortcomings. Their mean behavior toward others keeps their self-esteem high because it takes their own and others’ attention away from the parts of themselves about which they are ashamed (Thomaes, Bushman, Stegge & Olthof, 2008).
The anxiety and shame experienced by the bully interface with his sense of pride. In evolutionary terms, the expression of emotions, such as pride, conveys information to other social group members regarding one’s social status. The pride expression strongly signals high status and survival-relevant messages to others (Shariff and Tracy, 2009). The high self-esteem of a bully is a result of, and maintained by, hubristic pride.
Hubristic pride, which is experienced by bullies, generally translates into viewing oneself as being highly valued. In the experience of pride you might consider that your actions resulted in something done well, but with hubris you did something well because you are great. Thus, hubristic pride does not separate the self from the deed.
From “Psychology Today”
Of the Two Candidates, Which One is The Stronger Bully?
In the classroom or the school, students are safe if adults stand up and protect all students from bullying and teach the bully how to cope with life in more efficacious ways.
If a bully becomes President of the United States, the highest law of the land, allegedly in the most powerful nation in the world, who will feel safe?
How will those who feel threatened react to this country led by and immersed in hubristic pride?
Teachers, How Will You Vote on November 8?
In California, Republicans did not get a chance to cast our vote for anyone but candidates who, like “Little Marco,” had dropped out of the race. As a Republican, I strongly urge you to vote for Hilliary Clinton. She has shown tremendous strength against a bully who defeated all of the many able Republican candidates who were running for the candidacy.