How to Get Someone Out of a Grouchy Mood Even If You’re at the Grand Canyon

What a Beautiful Place to Be Grumpy!

Grand Canyon grumps
“Or not!”

Hopefully, like the cheerful woman in the picture, you have to wonder how anyone could be grumpy in such splendor.

However, for some families, traveling together is like packing two large dogs after a run in the mud, a couple of old grouchy cats, and a gopher in your suitcase, and hoping your clothes come out unscathed.

Do you know someone like this? They’d rather be home. They like their own bed. They hate crowds?

Grand Canyon grumps“Don’t plan a bunch of stuff that we have to do. I don’t want to do anything, just relax.”

Traveling is an ordeal with grumps in your family even if they are your favorite people. Ms. G. Stumpy might even be you. But even Sensitive Sam and Grumpy Stumpy go to some of the most sought-after vacation spots in the world and have a great time.

How do they do it?

Will you ever be able to get your Sensitive Sam past the front door?

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Before you take off consider these basic needs. You can make it easier for Grumpy Stumpy and in so doing will make it easier for yourself and the rest of the family when you travel.

Allow Grumpy Travelers to Help Plan the Trip

We decided to drive to the Grand Canyon, and you can read why in an earlier post.

Some of the views, like these, are only accessible by car, while others are just available by tour bus.  You can catch this stony tower and the rest of these travel shots at the East Rim of the Grand Canyon.

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Desert View Watchtower

One step you can take so that everyone has fun is to let others plan the trip. It’s just like cooking, if they grow the vegetables and help cook the food, they will enjoy the meal more.

If you are ordinarily a planner, this means that you may have to step back and be satisfied with what they plan. Some travelers prefer to have others make the decisions and be flexible about the results. For the planners, here is a great video to plan your Grand Canyon trip.

Grand Canyon grumpsGive them a job that they love. Even little ones adore being the photographer.  Keeping busy behind the tripod might be the emotional safety net that the teen or adult in your group needs to enjoy the trip.

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Everyone Needs His or Her Own Space

Grand Canyon grumpsTraveling puts people in tighter quarters than they usually have at home. Unfamiliar roads, eateries, beds all add to travel anxiety. When you get to a place where you can spread out, take advantage of it.

None of this man’s family is sitting with him on the edge of paradise. There’s a reason for that. In families, different members enjoy different experiences.

You may be the one to make compromises and watch the kids or wait behind while someone takes a few minutes to themselves.

Grand Canyon grumpsOr possibly you are the one who wanted to go down the trail, and your family member decided he’d sit at the top and watch. This may be stressful for family leaders who wish to make everyone to do what they want to do.

Hopefully, someone in the family has a sense of humor and is willing to follow the leader. With sensitive/grumpy families it’s probably best not to travel in groups of three where there are two leaders and only one follower!

Grand Canyon grumpsEight Cures for Tightly Packed Grouches

Finding emotional space when you’re in tight places, like the car may be more difficult.

If conversations heat up and the volume rises higher than the temperature in Arizona in August, try these temper tamers.

  1. Get lost in a book and have plenty of books, paper, audio, or digital for everyone to have an escape.
  2. Play a game.
  3. Allow the grumpy one to choose the music, or
  4. Take turns choosing the music.
  5. Bring earphones!
  6. Ignore the grump. Let your mind wander, soak up the scenery and block out the family disputes.
  7.  Maybe someone in the group is a captivating storyteller. Remind them of a story you’ve enjoyed, and let them regale.
  8. If there’s a motion sensitive grump in the group, audiobooks work well to distract and stimulate.

When All Else Fails – Eat or Drink

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Actually eating and drinking is a great diversion, no matter who does it. In this case, the squirrel built an entirely new community around its own needs. Everyone else forgot what made them grumpy.

If someone suffers from travel grumpiness, it may be that they suffer from low blood sugar. Travelers get hungry when they’re not on a schedule. You think about packing food for kids, but sometimes it’s the adult who needs sustenance to stay healthy emotionally.

Grand Canyon grumpsSo pack nuts. They travel well and are easily accessible from anywhere along the trail. You might lace the nuts with chocolate chips and dried cranberries for some added flavor and zing.

Squirrels eat nuts too.

Grand Canyon grumpsThis traveler had a long straw coming out of a water supply inside the backpack that sort of hung around his neck. Unlike the squirrel, he could take a sip when he wanted.

You might add some sandwiches, chips and cold drinks in your cooler. At the Grand Canyon, lunch costs almost as much as an egg during the Gold Rush. You stand in a long line for a sandwich from the refrigerated case. If you drive, pack a lunch. If the place you go has a great restaurant, you can eat your lunch later.

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This trip provided enough interest so that everyone could do something they enjoyed, from sitting next to a loved one receiving a gentle back rub to a talking your girlfriend into taking a dangerous-looking hike down a canyon trail.

Grand Canyon grumpsMaybe you can relate to some of these stressful vacation situations.

You may be the grump, or you may be the smoothie. Either way, you can help the vacation by packing emotional health tricks as well as your digital camera.

So turn that family grump into a photographer or blogger, storyteller, or reader and enjoy more of your next vacation.

For more fun walks around the world check out these two blogs.

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Why We Didn’t Take the Train to the Grand Canyon from Sedona

“The only thing I REALLY want to do when we go to Sedona, Carrie said, “is to take the train to the Grand Canyon.”

While taking the train from Sedona to the Grand Canyon has a romantic appeal, my husband convinced his son’s girlfriend she would enjoy driving better.

Little Colorado River Gorge

Little Colorado River Calls
Little Colorado River

First of all, you would miss seeing the Little Colorado River Gorge. Sure enough, a Navajo Parks and Recreation clerk collected $5 per car from her toll booth set in the middle of nowhere.  None of us had ever heard of this seldom discussed tourist site of Little Colorado River Gorge.


Little Colorado River Calls

The picture deceives the eye. It seems that you could touch the other side. It looks like rugged, barren countryside that had been fenced to keep the cattle from straying out of the area.

Nothing was further from the truth.

Little Colorado River Calls

Perfect Weather in September in Arizona

We enjoyed breaking up the two-hour car trip from Sedona to the Grand Canyon and stretching our legs.

The weather was perfect, sunny in the mid-70s, as we left the car to view the spectacle you could not see from AZ Highway 64. Coming from the hazy Central Valley in California, we enjoyed these fake-looking skies. Even without a filter on my phone, they looked dazzling, don’t you think?

Little Colorado River Calls

Unlike the Grand Canyon, this gorge looked like a fissure in the rock. No big deal, right? But wait, look down.

Little Colorado River Calls

Next Exit 3,200 Feet Down

You might want to climb down 3,200 feet to the bottom of the canyon, but we chose not to do so. Probably wisely so. We went as far as the guard rails. The river looked muddy in September which might have meant that they had a flash flood before we came. Little Colorado River Calls

Commonly the river is tinged blue or turquoise fed by springs and groundwater. Not everyone who ever saw it loved it. The first Americans to visit and tell about it, would not have made the best tour guide salespeople.

“It is a lo[a]thesome little stream, so filthy and muddy that it fairly stinks. It is only 30 to 50 [yards] wide now and in many places a man can cross it on the rocks without going on to his knees … [The Little Colorado was] as disgusting a stream as there is on the continent … half of its volume and 2/3 of its weight is mud and silt. … It seemed like the first gates of hell.”

—George Bradley and Jack Sumner, August 1869

Little Colorado River CallsThe Mormons who struggled to cross the shallow river in 1876 in wagons discovered quicksand as well as water. Do you think some of their journals might have had some ungodly words describing that journey?

Little Colorado River Calls

Nature did not paint the rocks a deep luscious burnt red as the Sedona rocks or even the salmon and copper patina of the Grand Canyon.  Yet you could admire the time it took the little river that could to carve down to where it flows today.

Little Colorado River Calls

As proud as Vince was to have found this stop that the train tour for $206 per person would have missed, we did not stay long.

Little Colorado River GorgeVince might be holding on a little tight to my shoulder, don’t you think? At least he wasn’t pulling me toward the edge! However, this was our last stand in front of this view. Like Carrie, we wanted to see the Grand Canyon, not the Little Colorado River Gorge.

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How to Assess Your Blog Goals Like a Business Even Though It’s a Hobby

Third Quarter Blogging Assessment

When you assess blog goals even if blogging is your hobby, you may find that you accomplished more, not just in blogging, but in life.

Assess blog goals


I signed up for two classes with two professional bloggers, Chris Brogan and Jon Morrow to get more serious about blogging.  Mark Brinker, a web developer, cut to the chase with me. He made a video for me to show me some things that are wrong with my blog, and with me as a professional blogger.

Affiliate Marketing

Affiliate sales have not been an easy way to make money for me. How many of you click on someone’s link to go to buy a product they recommend? I’m guessing not many.

I love Grammarly, in spite of the little errors it makes from time to time, but I made no sales. The same is true of Amazon. I have not made any money with either of them. I don’t write additional articles and don’t set up pages with items to buy, like a catalog. I’m not sure Amazon even encourages affiliates to do that anymore.

I also don’t need a platform for my books. I don’t have enough time to finish them. So at the end of the third quarter of 2017, I’m ending my monetization experiment. I won’t undo any of the links, but I will remove the advertising widgets and replace them with something more productive.

If my blog does produce an income somewhere in the future, that’s great. After expenses, I have several projects I’d love to support with my blog.

Assess blog goals


I offer a journal for free and another for sale. One other blogger I know sends out a free journal each month. Journalling improves life and blogging, and if I can encourage and help you, I’d love to help you.


The third way bloggers make money from their blogs is to provide services. Two services that I’ve done this year are

  • Copywriting
    • I’m doing some guest blogging. That is a lot of fun. I’m looking for guest bloggers on my site as well.
  • Social Media Marketing 
    • I’m still training students to work as virtual assistants for some of the nonprofits I manage. I enjoy doing this. If anyone wants to hire me to help them with social media, I’d be happy to help. Rates vary.


That goal bombed 100%. I did not devote one minute to achieving it.

GOAL #3 GET OUT A WEEKLY NEWSLETTER USING MailChimp – Not this quarter

I’ve been too busy getting out newsletters for other people to create one for myself.


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Webb Bridge, a footbridge over the Yarra River in Melbourne, Australia

Between three bloggers, we took thousands of great photos, each of which might become a blog post. Nothing could have been more amazing than to visit two bloggers, Leanne Cole and Carol Sheritt across the continent and spend three lovely weeks touring that fantastic continent.  That said, I have not been able to write twelve posts this quarter.


According to my records, I have 70 posts about blogging that I’ve written in the past year. As bloggers, you and I run into lots of problems, and when I spend time researching them, I pass on my information to you. Your feedback rewards me and I enjoy improving all of our skills.


I’ve published about 60 book reviews including some of yours. Currently, Kevin Cooper is writing a series on writing reviews that are great! I review both indie and traditionally published books excluding horror.


Twitter followers rose from 852 on Dec. 31, to 1,625 on March 31 to 2,289 on June 23, and on October 16 there are 2,576 followers. The more important result is that I enjoy using Twitter more than I did a year ago.  When I finish reading an excellent post, Twitter is the first place I share. What is your favorite way to support your favorite bloggers?


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This yellow ad was my promotion.

Somehow, I forgot to set new goals in social media. I made it to 430 by the end of September when I attended a webinar and decided to try Kim Walsh-Phillips’ technique for gaining 10,000 Likes in three days. for about $100.  It worked, but again I had some misunderstandings with Facebook and the price of their ads, so I went over and spent approximately $120. I ended the campaign with 14,417 Likes. At any rate, I’m down to 14,388 on October 16, 2017. I’m still adding followers as well, but the net is a loss of about 30 in two weeks.


It’s fun to post pictures on Instagram which go to Twitter and FB automatically. Instagram went from 221 to 282. I am following 589 up from 517 and have  444 posts up from 362.


Google + lost a follower and is at 256. Does anyone do well with Google+? Good on ya if you do. That is one goal that I’m dropping.


Assess blog goals

The astounding results on Facebook showed up on both of my blogs. My original blog is at 17,418. The actual number of visitors has stayed about the same. I try to post about once a week on this blog, and twice a week on Always Write.


Assess blog goals

Always Write increased to 18,204 thanks to Facebook last quarter. Colleen Cheesbro told me about Bitmoji In September, and I’ve gone a little Bitmoji crazy, but it makes blogging more fun. Not only that, I can picture myself looking like that slim little cartoon sort-of-me. Today I learned how to add wrinkles. They look better on her than on me.

Google Analytic (GA) also measures statistics.

This quarter I ignored GA. So I’m dropping it for the last quarter.

I also set additional somewhat measurable goals for this site in April.

  • Fix comment section – “Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill unless you want to blog seriously. I charge $125 an hour and use Studio Press. If you change themes, you won’t have that problem.” Mark Brinker. Good to know, Mark.


I’m going to continue the Virtual Assistant program this year through the Key Club, the Kiwanis high school program.


Always Write’s year of experimenting is almost over.  Even though I love blogging, I doubt that I have the heart to make money doing it. On Friday I will share about blogging at Career Day at the high school. When I signed up, I was excited about a career in blogging; now I may be a professional blogging fraud. However, two days ago the counselor for the high school told me that they were considering having all students blog their final portfolio instead of collecting their important academic work in a binder. WOW! Sometimes I think I may have made a tiny an impact in my community.

Last quarter I did one successful podcast and one flop. I made friends with many influencers in the blogging and writing industries which encouraged and discouraged me. Also last quarter, I wrote one guest post for Sally Cronin and one for Colleen Cheesbro.

My copywriting and marketing skills have improved, but it takes a lot longer to write a post than it did a year ago. That said, I’ve loved guest posting, and I want to do more of that this year.

Canva makes my creative juices flow, and I love creating flyers, brochures, and illustrations for posts. This year I’ve hardly used my camera, but rely on my iPhone, which is much easier to carry and works well for blogging.

I’ve started doing newsletters for my church and Woodlake Botanical Garden. Two weeks ago the mayor approached me and complained that I hadn’t been writing about the positive things the city had done for the Garden.

Wow! He may not like them, but the mayor of Woodlake reads my newsletters! That’s not a colossal brag. Woodlake is a small town. But it’s my town, and I’m thrilled to have influence.

All in all, it’s been a great quarter. How has yours been? Attach links to your assessments in the comment section. Or just leave me a message. Tell me how you’re doing.

Five Lessons to Learn at an Ancient Sinagua Indian Ruins

The Mystery People of Sedona

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Mystery describes the Sinagua Indians.  They lived in the Sedona area for hundreds of years, then in 1420, one hundred years before the white man arrived, they left.

Five thousand of them, gone without a trace.

Some scholars thought they migrated then intermingled with the Hopi Indian.

Nonetheless, they left a rich heritage for you to enjoy when you visit Sedona.

The Most Popular Pink Jeep Tour

You can’t help notice the shiny pink jeeps all over Sedona and the surrounding area.

The company is brilliant. they took one of the men’s favorite sports, bouncing around in the backcountry, and painted it pink. Then they market all the attire and everything else Pink Jeep.

Women love it. Men love that women love it.

This slightly bumpy tour to the Sinagua ruins is a favorite of the Pink Jeep Tour company. It’s an easy drive through West Sedona on AZ Highway 89A, then a short trip on a public unpaved road into the protected ruins.

At the end of the road, we entered a fenced in area, and our tour guide, Chip Roberge, led six of us on an easy path back to the Sinaguan homes dug into the cliff.

A Quick Pit Stop then Off to the Path

“I used to be a banker,” Chip Roberge told us as we started up the path to the Ancient Sinagua ruins just outside of West Sedona, “but I started doing Pink Jeep tours years ago and I’d never go back.”Ancient Sedona Ruins

Lesson One –  Trees

About an hour before sunset on a warm September evening, our party of six entered the ruins through a half-mile long, lightly forested, rocky footpath.

“This wasn’t the land flowing with milk and honey. There is no river near. In the desert, you can spot the water where you see a clump of trees. In fact, this area here would have been bare when the Sinagua Indians lived here. They would have used them all.”

Normally found in only the highest areas of Sedona, this interesting specimen, an Alligator Juniper definitely reminded you of an old alligator. Don’t get too close!


No worries, it was just a branch, but be careful. You might see a rattlesnake.

Lesson Two – Fruits

Chip pointed out several plants along the way. We passed a withering vine. The poisonous effects of the prickly melon fruit on the Sacred Datura could kill a human.  If you were lucky it could put you into a four-day hallucinogenic spell. I saw one of these in the Woodlake Botanical Gardens and dug it out.

Another prickly fruit, the prickly pear, you can pay about $10 for a permit to pick them. Since I’m not fond of pears, I passed. Beware, they will stain your mouth red. To pick them, stick a finger in the center indentation and wiggle it off the cactus. It seems like a lot of work to peel and eat each prickly bite.

Lesson Three Buildings

It didn’t take us long to meander the half mile up to the ruins once we stopped taking pictures of the plants along the way.

In spite of the relative luxuriant of the meadow today, I thought of being exiled here. I wondered if maybe these were the outcasts from the more robust societies along the river banks. Nonetheless, their homes showed creative similarities to Tuzigoot and Montezuma Castle.Chip said they used lumber to prop open the rows of windows. It looks like rocks to me.

With the scarcity of water, creating this much mud mortar must have been difficult. They used urine instead of fresh water. Since the last Sinaguans left in the 1400s, you can assume that it worked well. Scholars think that the Hopi Indians might have used these homes. It was unclear to me whether the tribes ever lived together, however.

Here you can see the windows more closely.

Lesson Four – Art

As you look up, high on the side of the hill you could see several markings on the different buildings. This distinctive seal marked their home much like a family crest identified families in Europe.

These pictographs displayed horses and people, but Chip suggested that horses had not come to the area at the time of these paintings. Can you see the ghost on the right side of the next picture? Some people could not spot it at first. Apparently, it is fluorescent and can be seen under a different light.

Lesson Five – The Rock Formations

Rock formations near the Sedona Ancient Ruins include Thunder Mountain and Chimney Rock and Lizard Head Rock.

Here’s the secret.

None of them are mountains. You can’t go to the Sedona Mountains because, according to our guide, they are not mountains, they are sedimentary rocks. Just rocks.

I’d like some of these rocks in my backyard, wouldn’t you?

Almost Sunset on Chimney Rocks.

In the next picture, you see Thunder Mountain (not a mountain) looming to the left of the pink jeep.

The driver took some sunset pictures using our cameras. Even though we were in the jeep with no windows to hold us back from the views, we couldn’t see as well from the right side.

The tour hour had expired but the views were so spectacular that the driver slowed down to allow us to take more pictures. (I’m sure he tells everyone that but we felt special nonetheless.) He did drive fast the rest of the way back.

If you are unable to walk for a mile or stand for 45 minutes to an hour there are three National Parks nearby Sedon you might enjoy more.

  1. Montezuma Castle has an easy walkway, but you don’t get close to the ruins.
  2. Montezuma Well is also on Highway 17. If the Castle is a #1 walk, then the Well is a #2.
  3. Tuzigoot is my favorite. Not only can you walk amid the ruins there is a museum with a Junior Ranger Guidebook that children can complete as they walk the park and the museum.

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